The other evening I was driving through a winding stretch of road. The road was narrow, and it was also dark. I found myself worrying that I was going to drive into the oncoming traffic. I was brought up short in my worries by the thought, “Why would I do that?” It wasn’t like I was going to all of a sudden steer my vehicle into one heading for me for some unknown reason. Of course accidents happen, deer run out and people veer to miss them. But what I was worrying about was that I would literally steer toward those headlights like a giant metal moth.
As preposterous as that sounds, I also worry I will do this in life. I worry I will somehow fail to see the danger and head straight for disaster. Not only is this a lack of faith in myself, it is a lack of faith in my Heavenly Father and even a lack of faith in my friends. I love the verse in Proverbs that says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6) As I learn more and more to trust God, He is showing me His straight paths that keep me from danger. Even if I were to miss a cue from God, I am also blessed with several truth-speaking friends who would be quick to pull me out of harm’s way!
I don’t know if this is something you struggle with as well, being afraid that you will somehow “miss” God’s direction or warning. I find a lot of comfort by staying in God’s word, the Bible. He uses verses to speak very personally, comforting me and guiding me. I would encourage you to spend some time reading the Bible, asking God to show you what He wants to tell you. In the hardest times I read Psalms and for very practical guidance, Proverbs. Really though, God can speak no matter where you find yourself wandering in His word.
I pray that we will worry less and less as we trust God more and allow Him to make our paths straight. Even on winding mountain roads!
I know we have all heard many times how powerful words are. Most of the time it seems these sermons or talks focus on the destructive power that misspoken words can have. However, the opposite is just as true. Words can have amazing healing strength as well. They can bolster our confidence. A well-spoken word from someone can change our entire day. Most amazingly, words can even have creative ability; after all, everything that exists was actually spoken into existence by God.
As we head into a new year in just a few days, it is a good time to think about words. What kind of words do we want to speak? What words are we willing to have spoken to us? Are we going to allow the words of our thoughts to drag us down and defeat us or are we going to believe God’s word to us?
The beginning of the year is a good time to set goals and think about things we might want to change in our lives or do a little differently. One of the things I started doing a few years back was picking a word for the year that I felt God wanted me to grow into during the next months. I found this to be an empowering exercise. As I would read the Bible during the year, God would show me the word in different verses, and teach me more about the quality the word expressed. One year a friend gave me a necklace with my word-of-the-year printed on it. It was such a thoughtful reminder to me as I strove to grow that quality in my life.
In these last few days of the year, I am thinking and praying about my words for 2019. I want to choose kinder, softer words for my children. I want to find encouraging words for my friends. I even want to strive to have kind words in my thoughts for others, as well as myself. Would you like to join me? I pray that God will show you a word or two that He has especially picked out for you this year!
“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Proverbs 16:24
Normally we don’t enjoy being last. Especially us Americans. We have been taught from birth that there is no other place than first, and that second place is just the first loser. However, I have found something recently that I do like being last to. There is a stretch of road construction on a highway I drive several times a week. This is a major project which involves fairly long traffic delays. I am very happy to come up to the traffic stop last, just as traffic is being allowed to start proceeding!
Being motivated to succeed is not necessarily a bad thing, we just take it to extremes many times in our culture. We also, as believers in Jesus, have to be very careful not to measure our relationship with Him the same way the world would. We can very easily fall into the thinking that we need to be “first” in His eyes by doing a lot for Him. If we volunteer to teach Sunday school, sing at church, give to a lot of causes, follow all the “rules,” then we will be worthy to be in a relationship with Him.
Back in Jesus’ day there were people with the same mindset. They believed that if they followed all of the law, or “rules,” they would be first in the kingdom of heaven. In the book of Matthew in the Bible, Jesus told them it didn’t work that way. He explained that God’s economy is the exact opposite of our human one. In fact, He flat out said that the first will be last, and the last will be first. This was revolutionary to the people of His day and to us too. We cannot work our way into heaven and we cannot buy our way in, salvation is a free gift of grace.
Do you tend to fall into the thinking that everything depends on you?
I can’t say that I hope you have an opportunity to see God work in this way in your life, because as the examples show, we usually don’t like the way the opportunities are presented! We live in a world where these times are unavoidable though, so when the curtain is pulled back on an illusion you have been depending on, remember it is just that, an illusion, and underneath is the rock solid love of God.
The other day I was late getting out of the house, or so I thought. As I went out the door I was in fact, right on time to catch two of my children with arm loads of glass sheets they had taken out of the louvered windows of an old travel trailer we have. Their intention was to try to wedge it in the windows of a little cabin they had constructed. In my mother imagination all I could see was broken shards of glass everywhere and children sliced to ribbons. I had them immediately return the glass to the trailer and assured them we would come up with a safer alternative.
The part of the whole incident that was reassuring to me, is that God is completely in control, even, and probably most especially when, I feel out of control. That day I had felt that my morning had gone “wrong,” and I was feeling a lot of guilt over being late. In our hurry culture, full of schedules, we can mistakenly get the idea that we are in control of our days. Usually we are brought up short in this belief by interruptions, some as mild as traffic and some much more serious.
So the next time I think I am running late, or I get caught in traffic, I am going to say no to the instant anxiety that wells up inside me. Instead I am going to remind myself of all the times that my Heavenly Father has had perfect timing in my life and try to rest in Him.
Are you a fan of failure? Not too many people are, although some people do use failure as a reason to stop trying and stand still. Granted, failure can be paralyzing. There is another option though, we can choose to fall forward. That way even though we have fallen, at least we have gained some ground!
This is such a crazy concept to me since I have been terrified of failure for most of my life. I have actually not felt free to make a mistake for fear of the judgment of those around me. The thing is, it is human to make mistakes and mistakes are also an opportunity for God to shine His grace into our lives. In a way, by trying so hard not to fail, I was actually shutting grace out of my life.
God has been showing me that making mistakes is proof that I am trying, that I am alive and engaged in my world. Life is messy. There is just no way to navigate it all without an error now and then.
When we do fall, God, in grace, picks us up, dusts us off and tells us it’s okay to try again. He never leaves us lying there. (Although on occasion I have chosen to lie there and wallow in self-pity for a little while!)
I think falling forward is similar to leaning in to Jesus when things get hard. Sometimes I find myself wanting to pull away when life gets difficult, as though it were Jesus’ fault. And all the time He is waiting to enfold me in His arms and tell me it will be okay.