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My daughter is Goldilocks! I don’t know why it took me ten years to realize this, but it did.

Not only does she have golden hair, but she has the audacity as well. Just like her fictional counterpart, she seems to have no regard for other people’s property. What is hers is hers and what is yours is hers too!

She is the baby of the family, number eight in the sibling line up. From the time she was six months old, she somehow weaseled her way into eating my dinner every night. I got in the habit of simply putting more on my plate so that I would have something to eat also. She wears her sisters’ clothes, uses their brushes, and just like Goldilocks, even sleeps in their beds.

I have always questioned the character of the fairy tale Goldilocks. She seemed to take no thought for the owners of the little cottage as she searched for the things that were “just right.” She appears to have been somewhat destructive and quite selfish, but I don’t think that is the reason my daughter behaves as she does.

My daughter seems to be absolutely secure in the fact that she is loved. She has always had seven older siblings and her parents doting on her. She has very little fear and is quite confident. She is also loving and kind and makes friends easily with people of all ages.

In many ways, I think my daughter models how God wants us to feel about our relationship with him. He offers us so many gifts and we simply have to receive them. He holds us securely in his arms so we can dance freely through life. He always, always, loves us no matter what we do or what may happen to us. We don’t need to fear! We really can rest securely in God’s love for us.

I know, a lot easier said than done. I have been personally working on these things for my whole life. Thank goodness God is also patient with us! He will continue to lead us to this place of freedom and security in him, where we can say with Goldilocks, “This is just right!”

“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in them.” 1 John 4:16

My daughter gave me an interesting description in my Mother’s Day card. She said I have “elephant ears.”

At first, I wasn’t sure this was a compliment! As I read on however, I understood what she meant. This is my daughter who sometimes gets lost in the noisy crowd of our family of eight children. Everyone is loud and boisterous. She is sweet and gentle…until she has had enough! As she went on in her card, she said that I have elephant ears to hear when she is feeling a little lost or sad. She feels like I hear her in the midst of the noise.

It is not always easy, okay, it is seldom easy, to be attentive to all the needs of eight children. I do my best to notice and help them where and when I can. I have to be careful that it is not only the squeaky wheels who receive the grease though.

Her comments made me think of those in our communities who are naturally quiet. They can go unnoticed whether at church or in other groups. Jesus seemed to be especially attentive to this particular group of people, whether it was a woman touching his garment in a crowd or a blind beggar crying out from the margins. Jesus heard and saw people.

There are two sides to this realization. One, if we are the naturally quiet, we can know that Jesus sees us. Also, we may need to speak up and ask for what we need, even with God. Two, if we are the naturally out-going or louder people, we need to open our “elephant ears” to hear the quieter ones and listen to their needs. May we each grow our listening ears until they are the size of an elephant’s!

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen.” James 1:19a

Things have gotten a lot more sophisticated at my house.  Years ago when my children were all younger, the annual Leprechaun traps were simple: a discarded cardboard box propped up with a stick with some “gold” bait underneath or a heavy object carefully balanced so as to fall on an unsuspecting Leprechaun’s head.  Now, there are mechanized Lego machines designed to firmly capture the Leprechauns and hold them fast so their gold can be lifted from their pockets!

Luckily, even with the more sophisticated traps, the little rascals have escaped unharmed except for the loss of their chocolate gold coins they have dropped in their haste.  My children seem to take the escape of their proposed captives quite well each year, mollified by the sweet treats they leave behind.

I was thinking about all of this a few days ago.  It was actually sobering to me when I realized that this was all quite familiar in another way in my life.  When I was a young follower of Jesus, the enemy’s traps didn’t have to be that complicated to get me to fall for them.  Looking back, they were really fairly obvious.  However, as I have matured in my walk with Jesus, they have become far sneakier.

We have an enemy that doesn’t quit.  When we get wise in one area, another weakness will show up and be exploited.  Now that I have been being discipled by Jesus for as long as I have, the traps have become far more sophisticated.  Sometimes, there is no way for me to even see them by myself.

This is where other people come in.  It is crucial for us as believers to stay connected with each other.  We need others to point out blind spots and weaknesses and to keep us accountable.  And we need to do this for our friends.  We are not meant to walk this way of Jesus alone.  After all, I am sure even the Leprechauns help pull each other out of the traps my children have set for them!

  “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help.” Ecclesiastes 4:9–12

Every year my children eagerly anticipate Punxsutawney Phil’s celebrated emergence from his den.  For those who may not know, Phil is a groundhog in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania with a gift for predicting weather.  Legend has it that if Phil sees his shadow when he exits his lair on February 2nd, Groundhog Day, there will be six more weeks of winter.  

The funny thing is that my children then remember which way his prediction went and talk about the weather accordingly until spring!  They enjoy arguing back and forth about whether Phil’s prediction is accurate for the year.  It is somewhat amazing the power this particular shadow has.  There is also another shadow that we should pay attention to.

There are only so many hours in the day and so many days in a week.  As westerners,  most of us are production-oriented.  Many of us try to “do it all.”  Reality is though, we can’t.  This is where that other shadow comes in.  When we are focused on something, that thing is getting our attention or our “light” if you will.  Other tasks, maybe even relationships, are going to be in shadow.  In other words, if we are saying “yes” to something, we are saying “no” to something else.  

Followers of Christ are not exempt from this.  We may be under the impression that we can do more than the average person, after all, we have Christ strengthening us.  But this isn’t exactly what Jesus taught.  Jesus Himself often cast shadows.  He stayed absolutely committed to doing only His Father’s will and if you read the Gospels closely, you will find that that involved a lot of “no’s.”  

This might make a lot of us uncomfortable.  It is uncomfortable.  Learning to be okay leaving some things in shadow can take a lot of work.  It involves learning about our limits and learning how to set boundaries primarily with ourselves.  The good news is that it also frees us up to focus on what God has called us to at the time and really let our light shine.

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”  Matthew 5:16

Like most Americans, my family is schedule and clock-driven. We have a giant whiteboard calendar on prominent display. Everything is color-coordinated and planned to the half hour. We definitely get a lot done, but if we are not careful, we don’t get a lot of time for rest and just plain fun.

Recently, we decided to take a day off and head to the pumpkin patch. The fall weather has been unseasonably warm and it was a great day to indulge in some apple cider slushies. There was no agenda, just meandering from one thing to the next with plenty of downtime in between. We took pictures, recreated some old photos, and created new memories.

As we were getting into the car to head home, my daughter commented, “That was a valuable waste of a day!” The comment struck me as so wise. Sometimes there is great value in not getting anything done. Taking time to stop and smell the roses, or pick a couple sunflowers, can be just as valuable as a day of work.

Of course, God has known this all along. One of the very first things He did for us was to model how to take a day of rest. He created the sabbath rest for us, I wonder why it is so difficult for some of us to receive this gift? I know for myself it has been a struggle my whole life to stop for a day. The rewards are so great whenever I do. Somehow, everything still gets done on time and the world keeps turning!

If this is something you struggle with as well, I would encourage you to try it. Take a day off, play with your family or spend some time with God. Tweaking my daughter’s comment a little, you just might find that it was a valuable use of a day.

Then Jesus said to them, “The Sabbath was made to meet the needs of people, and not people to meet the requirements of the Sabbath.” Mark 2:27

It is that time of year! There are school graduations from Kindergarten through college. This spring my family and I are celebrating two high school graduations, and I am fulfilling a long time goal of graduating from college. It is an exciting time as diplomas are handed out and students contemplate next steps in their career or educational journeys.

As I was thinking more about graduations, I realized that we experience “graduations” all the time, not just in the spring. Babies graduate from one type of food to another, in fact, a popular baby food brand even labels some of their food as “graduates.” These graduated steps may be most easy to see in babies and young children, but we all experience them.

We go from being children to teenagers to adults. We graduate to living on our own or to marriage. We graduate to working adults. We sometimes become parents and then grandparents. Even in between all of these larger milestones are the smaller, less noticeable ones.

While many of these graduations are happy occasions, there can still be a sense of loss or even trepidation about what comes next. To be honest, sometimes a graduation can feel more like standing on the edge of a precipice trying to find the bridge! Mixed in with the excitement of achievement, there can be some pressure to know what comes next. Well meaning friends and family may inquire about future plans.

It is so comforting to know that no matter what season we are in, or what “graduation” we may be facing, God is with us every step of the way. He holds our yesterdays, todays, and tomorrows in the palm of His hand. Even when we don’t quite know what is happening next, we can trust that He does.

I tend to picture my life path as a narrow, winding path up the side of the cliff. Sometimes I don’t dare breathe too deeply for fear of falling off course. When I take a moment to look up at God, I realize that His intent is to bring me to a spacious place where I can take a deep breath. I don’t have to cling to things so hard and worry so much about what comes next.

So if you too are in a season of graduation, feel free to throw that cap in the air! Celebrate your accomplishment and trust that you can look forward to the next season of life because as God told me awhile back, “You know the steps, let me lead.”

“The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in Him; though they may stumble, they will not fall, for the LORD upholds them with His hand.” Psalms 37:23-24