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I found it rather ironic that it took me over a month to write a blog about having no timeouts as a parent! In almost every team sport that I can think of, there are a certain number of timeouts allowed. Coaches use these in various strategic ways such as running down the clock in football. However, from the moment one becomes a parent, there are no timeouts allowed!

This thought originally came to me as I was preparing (or trying to prepare) for an important zoom meeting I had in just a few minutes. This was the moment that my 17 year old son and my 10 year old son both decided to push every boundary they had ever been given! Over this past month, which has been crazy with too many kid-related activities to enumerate, I have again pondered this idea of parental timeouts.

As I have mentioned in the past, I do begin my mornings with Jesus and coffee. After that though, I am running for all I am worth most of the day. As a child, I hated being sent to my room for a timeout, or horror of horrors–a nap! Now, I wish someone would send me to my room!

At this point in my parenting journey, having young adult children, teenagers, and small children, just walking out of the room for a minute can mean chaos breaks out. However, throughout all of this, Jesus is still sustaining me. I am trying to learn to rest in Him in my spirit, even if I can’t physically rest (ideally in a beautiful shady glen in a hammock far away in the woods…) and be patient with everything and everyone around me. As all my family would testify, I am far from perfect at this, but I am getting better. I always find it encouraging to remember that Jesus needed timeouts with God too. He wasn’t afraid to step away for a minute, even though the crowds were all still needy. In this same way, sometimes I need to put my children into God’s hands and take a minute by myself to pray.

I suspect that I am still many, many years from having regular timeouts, but with Jesus sustaining me, I can stay in the game!

“Yet the news about Him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear Him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Luke 5:15-16

As I was cleaning up the kitchen this evening I realized that my children firmly believe in magic.  This is different from the magic of the leprechauns that I write about every year around March 17th.  

To begin with, the kitchen I was cleaning had supposedly already been cleaned–by multiple people.  Evidently there is an enchantment upon my kitchen that allows only me to see the caked-on crumbs and stickiness on every counter and stove top.  But, magically, when my children get up in the morning, every surface will be sparkling for real.

I also noticed that we were almost out of dish soap, which no one had mentioned, but will also “magically” appear in the cupboard.  There are many things like this that from my children’s perspective simply appear by magic.  

This magic goes on all the time in our home: things appearing, disorder and mess disappearing.  Some day, at least I hope, my children will outgrow this magic just as they grow out of their belief in leprechauns.  They will mature and become thankful, as their older siblings have, of all of the ways my husband and I have cared for their needs over their years without them even having to ask. 

However, children aren’t the only ones who take these kinds of things for granted.  I know I also take my Father’s good gifts and provision for granted.  I can go through a whole day without realizing the miracle of the sun rising yet again, that there is air for me to breathe, and a million other blessings that I can act as though are just there by magic.

I want to grateful every day for the blessings God gives me, from the simple to the profound. It is good to be well taken care of and it is good to be grateful!

“I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonderful deeds.” Psalm 9:1

For the Israelites, the land signified God’s promise.  So much so that they regularly referred to it as the “Promised Land.”  The land, more than anything else, symbolized God with them and also his blessings.  

When God first made humans he placed them in a location, the garden of Eden.  When sin entered, they were sent out of the land and symbolically out of God’s presence.  When the people were released from slavery, it had not been God’s idea for them to wander in the desert for all those years.  His plan had been to deliver them from slavery to the land he had promised Abraham years before.  For people in the Ancient Near East, deities were connected with a location and the Israelites would have viewed Yahweh in the same way.  Much like the garden, when the Israelites were obeying, they remained in the land, but after continued disobedience, God allowed them to be exiled.

God used the concept of land to illustrate and teach many things to the Israelites.  He wanted them to fully trust in him.  He wanted them to know that he would fully provide for them. The people fully expected a land of abundance, flowing with date honey and milk.  God even allowed the people to struggle to claim the land so that their faith in him would be strengthened.

Even when Jesus came, the Jewish people still viewed God through a lens of place.  They were looking for a time when God would establish his reign on earth, centered at the temple in Jerusalem.  God has other plans, but these still involve his promises to us today and the ultimate renewal of all the earth, not just Israel.

Believers today still “dwell” with God.  The same promises that he gave his people are ours today.  He is still a God of abundance and blessing.  Even if we cannot understand the significance of physical land, we can take comfort that our dwelling place is with God and as Joshua 1:9 ends with, “the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful…so begins the Scout law.  This is a list of twelve qualities that Scouts strive to live up to, whether at a Scouting event or in everyday life.  Our family has been involved in Scouting for over fourteen years now.  During that time we have logged many, many hours at all kinds of activities ranging from weekly meetings, to camping trips, to fundraising events and much more in between!

Our kids have learned a lot from Scouting, much good, some difficult.  One aspect that we embraced as a family from the beginning was the practice of leaving things better than we found them.  Whenever we would finish up an event, all Scouts and leaders would systematically scour the area for trash or anything we might have left behind.  The kids would grumble a little of course, but they always did a good job.

As a parent or a leader of young people, you never know what is going to stick.  Much of the time it can feel like our words are bouncing off brick walls right back at us.  It may take years to find out what did get through, maybe until the kids we were talking to have kids of their own.  However, in this area I have seen the impact it made on my own kids.

Wherever they go, my kids are always cleaning things up and leaving it better than they found it.  Whether it is at the lake or eating at a restaurant, my family is picking up any trash left around.  My husband leads the charge in this, especially at restaurants.  When we are done eating, the table is cleaner than when we sat down!

This habit of ours is based on something that may not be readily apparent: respect.  By leaving something cleaner than when we arrived, we are showing respect for the next people that visit.  By gathering our dishes and cleaning the table at a restaurant, we are showing respect for the servers and bussers that are working.  When we pick up stray fish hooks, bottle caps, or broken glass that others have left at the lake, we are showing respect for little feet that may come after us. 

In our world of overwhelming problems, this little quirk of ours may not seem to count for much.  However, if more of us would take this idea of respect for others–even others that we are never going to meet and who will never know anything about us–into other areas of life, maybe together we will begin to change those problems.  

The Scriptures do not record Jesus and His disciples cleaning in this way, although they didn’t leave the scraps from their meal all over the mountain!  However, Jesus had a tendency to leave people better than He found them, if they were willing.  He still does this today.  He can come into our messy lives and clean them up if we will allow Him.  Just like the Scouts are supposed to be, He too is trustworthy.  

Snow does strange things.  I did not know this until I lived with it.  I had gone to play in the snow periodically in my life, enjoying sliding down hills on giant tubes.  I have had my share of misadventures with traveling in snow as well.  However, it wasn’t until I lived in it that I began to see all the different qualities and characteristics it contains.

The first thing I discovered is that snow is very, very messy.  I had not thought about what happens after the snowfall is over.  I just saw beautiful pictures of pristinely white landscapes.  In actuality, that part lasts for a very short time before the trees begin to rain melting snow and the snow gets dirty from a variety of sources.  I have also found that people seem to either love it or hate it, there don’t appear to be many in between.  

The most interesting thing about snow though, is that it acts as a great equalizer.  In the forests around where I live, the pine beetles are destroying the trees at a fast rate.  There are large swaths of brown trees among the green, but when the forest is blanketed with snow all the trees are beautiful.  There is no longer alive or dead, everything is white. 

 

Snow does the same thing to people.  No matter who you are or what your economic circumstances are, if the roads are closed because of a snowstorm you are not going anywhere.  We can strive, complain, or try to push, but when the snow is feet thick on the highway, no one is getting through.

This may sound like a stretch, but in some of these ways I see snow like Jesus.  He makes circumstances and people that look like they are dead beautiful, and He does it in the same way, by covering us with Himself.  He is also not a respecter of persons.  It does not matter how much money we have, or how little.  It does not matter how much we try to strive, work or push, none of us can make it through on our own.  Jesus is the only way and He is waiting for everyone to turn to Him. 

“Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'” John 14:6