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When I began blogging, several years ago now, my first blog was about my son. It described his power for stating the obvious. Unfortunately, this little guy also loves to be in everybody else’s business. He has to be the first to tell any news about anyone. I can’t even get out of the car when I return home before he is talking at me through the windshield, telling me the latest news.

Whenever we turn around there he is, listening intently. He appears to have the power of cloning himself as well, because it seems he is everywhere all at once taking in information that he then disseminates just as quickly!

Now, I have told you before that I am not exactly mother-of-the-year, so please don’t get too upset about what I tell you next. This characteristic of his was getting so intense and rude that I came to a creative solution. I began to call him “Edna.” Now, no offense to any lovely ladies out there with the name Edna. It was a name I thought of to describe the elderly, neighborhood gossip. The lady who just always happens to be outside watering her roses when something interesting is going on in your front yard.

As you can imagine, my 8 year old son did not take too kindly to this nickname…at first. The really surprising thing is that after he stopped being irate about it, he calmed down and realized that he really was Edna! After that, he made a concerted effort to stay out of other people’s business and to stop himself when he began to ask a nosy question. He even began to admonish his sisters that they should not be too inquisitive so they didn’t end up as an “Edna.”

Now, this is a long story to get to my actual point. ANY strength taken too far can become a weakness. My son has amazing powers of observation. He notices details that other people routinely miss. He is extremely interested in people. I know God is going to use all of these talents in a very special way. However, he will probably always have to watch himself that he is not being too nosy or intrusive.

God has given each one of us strengths. These strengths can be wonderful gifts in our lives and in other people’s lives. But, we have to be careful. An organized person can become a “control freak.” An outgoing, friendly person can become obnoxious and overbearing. A person who loves justice and truth can become harsh and legalistic. And on it can go.

In fact, a good way to figure out your own strengths, might be to look at your weaknesses. If there is an area you struggle in, could it be a strength taken too far? I know this has been the case frequently in my life. With God’s grace, I have come a long way. I know He is eager to show you your own special strengths as well and how to reign them in and share them with the world!

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” II Corinthians 12:9a

My friend was telling me recently, how some animals bond immediately with their mothers after they are born. This is the case with ducks, chickens and geese. It is said that lambs are born knowing their mother’s voice. I don’t know how many other animals are like this, but in my own experience this can be the case with human babies as well.

When my fifth daughter was born, she was laid on my stomach right away. As she lay there, she turned her little head and looked directly into my eyes! It was a moment I will never forget and she has been my special girl ever since.

This is like when we first give our lives to Jesus. For the very first time, we gaze unhindered into the eyes of our Creator and a bond is formed. As we continue to walk with Him, the bond becomes stronger. In fact, as far as Jesus is concerned, it is unbreakable.

Another friend shared something with me the other day that goes right along with this bonding idea. She gave me a paper that describes and defines the Hebrew word for “wait.” The first word for “wait” that it describes is chakah, but the second Hebrew word is qavah. Interestingly enough, this is the word used in the familiar verse, “They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.” This form of the word “wait” actually means to bind. So the paper said we could read the verse as, “They that bind themselves to God shall renew their strength.”

That is such a beautiful picture of our relationship with Jesus. The closer we walk with Him, the more we are renewed and the stronger our bond becomes. Nothing can take us away from Him, He is our Father forever!

“My sheep listen to My voice; I know them, and they follow Me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of My hand.” John 10:27-28

I don’t know if you have noticed the little signs at many places of business lately, asking for exact change due to a national change shortage. I have no problem with that, I am happy to count out my coins or just tell them to keep the change if I am feeling magnanimous. I only wish that sometimes I could do the same to my life!

I don’t know about you, but I am not the biggest fan of change. Even when the change is good, good for me, or a change for the better, it is still disconcerting. I am just old enough that changes in technology frustrate me. Unlike the ecstasy my children experience with a new phone, I approach mine with dread and suspicion. Changes in my environment have always thrown me for a loop. Even a new opportunity can make me nervous before I feel excited.

As you can imagine, in my family of 8 children, change can happen at a rapid pace. With an age range from 19 to 5 years old, there is always something changing! I know however, that if it was just me, I still wouldn’t enjoy change.

I think there is something within even the most restless and adventurous of us that enjoys consistency and routine. We like to be able to be able to count on things being a certain way. Unfortunately, there is much truth to the saying that the only thing certain in life is death and taxes!

The absolutely wonderful news is that there is a third thing that we can count on in life. In fact, we can stake our lives on it. And that is God. Never-changing, never failing, always perfect, always loving, solid as a rock…God. This is the good news that keeps me calm when everything around me seems to be in upheaval. There are so many comforting verses in the Bible about God being our steady rock, our safe place in times of change and trouble.

When I feel uneasy and uncertain about the changes happening around me, I am so glad that I can go to my Heavenly Father Who is always steady. I can tell Him my frustrations about my new phone, (first world problems!) But I can also talk to Him about much deeper changes, such as the ones He is constantly working on in my soul. So I guess in the end, I am grateful for change, even though once in awhile, I may wish I could just tell life to keep the change!

“‘Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you.” Isaiah 54:10

You may be a parent when your toddler is screaming that she won’t take a nap, while you yourself would love one.

You may be a parent when your fifth grader is threatening to leave home if you make her do any more writing homework, while you yourself would love to have time to write.

You may be a parent when you would love to have someone make you a healthy dinner from scratch, but you only have time to make one dinner and do not feel like listening to your children complain yet again tonight, so you are eating a plate of gross hot dogs and cheap mac ‘n cheese because your children don’t even like good hot dogs or homemade macaroni and cheese…

Being a parent is definitely not on anyone’s list of easy things to do. Raising children to adulthood and, (let’s be honest) beyond, is an uphill battle most of the time. Sure there are rewards such as baby snuggles, cute smiles with a first missing tooth, a scribbled card for your birthday and I am told–eventually grandkids! However, trying to just raise kids one day at a time is a challenge.

I have been reading recently about Moses trying to lead the Israelites through the desert. It seriously sounds like trying to take my children somewhere! They had the same complaints I hear: I’m starving, I’m thirsty, I’m tired, I want to go home, (back to Egypt.) God gave Moses a big job and he approached it with a lot of humility, self-sacrifice and a huge dependence on God.

It was encouraging to read because these are the same qualities I need in order to guide my children through childhood into adulthood. It is comforting to know that I can ask God to help me any time I need it and that He is always with me on this journey. Also like Moses, I need to remember that first and foremost my children belong to God and He loves them even more than I do. He knows the plans He has for them and He already knows each of their stories.

So while parenting will probably never make the top ten easiest occupations list, it is certainly on my list of the most rewarding. Not only do I get to raise some pretty great kids, but I have the opportunity to be refined by God in the process. Even if I have to force my child to go take a bath when I myself would love one!

“Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.” Proverbs 14:26

It is that time of year again. My little mischief makers try to catch other little mischief makers! Once again my children are determined that their traps will be successful. This will finally be the year that they capture a leprechaun and force him to reveal his hidden gold.

I have been very busy and didn’t get around to decorating for St. Patrick’s Day. My younger children asked if they could take care of it and without thinking too much I said yes. Before long, my house was covered in shamrocks and little drawings of leprechauns! I have seriously found them everywhere.

The funny thing is, my number 7 son, the one with red hair who looks just like his intended victims, also seems to be everywhere all at once. He will be in bothering his sisters, while seemingly driving his brothers crazy at the same time. Whenever I try to have a conversation with anyone in the family, there he is. Just like his counterparts, he is a lovable, energetic, mischievous little guy.

As much as my leprechaun drives me crazy sometimes, I know he is growing up way too quickly and I will miss his hi-jinks some day. My prayer for him is that he will always search for the treasures of God with as much passion as he pursues the leprechauns’ gold. I know that God has a special plan for his life, just like He has for my other children and for each of us as well.

I pray that my son will hide the truths of God deep in his heart. However, unlike the stingy leprechauns, I pray that the love of God will overflow out of him to everyone around. I trust that as he grows in his relationship with Jesus, that he will have a powerful testimony to share with others that will in turn cause them to seek God’s treasure of salvation!

“My goal is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may know the mystery of God, namely Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.” Colossians 2:2-3

I am just now entering the parenting stage of letting go. My older sons are more independent and I have a third learning to drive. It has been exciting, nerve wracking and pride inducing all at once as I watch them make their way in the world outside our home.

The farther I journey as a parent, the more I appreciate God as my Father. I think of all of the times that I have gone my own way and the fits I have thrown when things didn’t go my way. I think of the times when I have hurt His Father heart. There are poor choices I have made, just like my own children have, that I wish that I hadn’t. God in a sense, through giving us freewill, has always chosen to be in the letting go stage. The awesome thing is that He is also always in the welcoming-back stage.

That is the other thing I am learning about parenting. Even when my children stretch their wings and fly, they still need to come back every now and then to a safe place to talk about their adventures. I try in the same way, to stay in communication with my Heavenly Father about my adventures. I love the picture God gives in the Bible of us finding shelter under his wings. We do not need to fight our battles alone out in the cold, unprotected world. We have an available, comforting Father with us at all times.

I am not always able to be as available to my older children as God is to us, of course, and that is okay. It is my goal that they will always turn to their Heavenly Father first, before turning to their (let’s be honest, flawed) earthly parents!

So if this is also the parenting stage you are in right now, please find comfort that God understands the push and pull of letting go and receiving back. He knows the heartache of good bye and the wonderful joy of reunion. He knows the delicacy of not pushing any of us past our freewill–while keeping His arms open wide.

“Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I trust Him. For He will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease. He will cover you with His feathers. He will shelter you with His wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection.” Psalm 91:1-4