If you are a mom and you ever question if what you do is necessary or important, just get sick. I promise you, you will find out immediately how vital you are to the welfare of your family!
I recently got to experience this with a terrible cold that just hung on and on. Evidently I am the only person in the house with eyesight good enough to see messes. I would beg the kids to clean up the living room. I would go lie down, then come back later and the room would still be a mess. I asked them why they didn’t clean it and they would all tell me they had. I pointed out the various things still all over the floor and they would look at them in astonishment as though the items had just materialized out of the carpet!
They had problems feeding themselves as well. The older kids did okay finding sandwich fixings and some frozen pizzas. However, the three youngest children needed my guidance for every snack or meal. My six year old especially struggled with this. He would come stand at my bedside and tell me he was hungry. (Now I have a confession to make, lately I have been buying more pre-made snacks and easier food items because we have been so busy. So there were plenty of things simple enough for a six year old to grab and eat.) I would have to list out several items that were available for him to choose from before he would go pick one and eat it!
In all seriousness though, our children do really need us. Even those grumpy teenagers who act as though we are completely unnecessary. Even on the days that you feel you have failed everyone in your home, the reality is that you are there. My kids come find me throughout the day to ask me all kinds of questions or to tell me about all the interesting things that happen to them. Do not underestimate the value of this.
When our kids are all grown they are not going to look back and remember how clean we kept our houses or if we kept up on the laundry or not. They are going to remember how we were always there for them with a hug, or encouragement, or to listen to them. So while I hope you don’t get sick anytime soon, if you do, let it remind you how valuable you are to your family, and try to get some rest!
“These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7