People always tell me that I seem very calm. I laugh to myself when they say that because I feel more like the proverbial duck, calm on the surface and paddling like mad underneath! It is true however, that I somehow keep my household moving forward in a relatively smooth way even though there are what seem like a billion moving pieces. Believe me, this is due to Jesus and His ability to keep me upright, not any super power that I have.
It is very interesting how the day ebbs and flows, especially with my younger ones. It has a tendency to go between calamity and what I term, “calm-ity.” Some days it almost feels like I can set a watch by it. Someone has a disaster, a bumped head or an injustice from a sibling. I get them calmed down and about 20 minutes later something else happens. This goes on most of the day until the older ones are all home and then they jump into the mix and take their turns bouncing between peace and turmoil!
Trying to play referee, nurse and life coach keeps me pretty busy, but as I already mentioned I don’t do it on my own. I have learned that I need to be praying Jesus’ peace over my children and home. When I hear them start picking on each other and bickering, I try to remember to pray a quick prayer for calm to descend. A mentor of mine taught me that we can say, just as Jesus did to the storm, “Peace, be still!” This has been startlingly effective. When I remember to rely on Jesus to calm everything down instead of trying to do it myself it works so much better. This friend of mine also said we can say this to our own thoughts when they start to spiral into negativity.
I know it can be hard to feel calm when we are in the middle of a calamity. We usually think of calm as something before a storm or after one has passed. However, the Bible teaches us that it is possible to have peace right in the middle of a storm. In fact, just before He calmed the storm, Jesus was asleep in the boat! So maybe after all it isn’t necessarily an either/or, but a both/and: calm-ity in the calamity!
“And a great windstorm arose, and the waves were breaking into the boat, so that the boat was already filling. But He was asleep on the cushion. And they woke Him and said to Him, ‘Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?’ And He awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, ‘Peace! Be still!’ And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.” Mark 4:37-39